A crying baby can get to you more than anything in the world. As a parent the built-in mechanism that urges you to try and stop the crying makes it all the more harder. Sometimes it becomes a worry when the crying keeps going even though you've done everything you can to soothe your baby. So how can you deal with it without lashing out or going bonkers? We've come up with a few tips that will help you keep your cool.
When dealing with a crying baby the best thing to do is start with the basics. Do they need to be fed? Is their tummy a little sore and they need burping? Does their nappy need to be changed? Do they need some gentle rocking in the rocking chair? Try these basics first before you start fretting. Go through the motions. You can even write these steps down as a list to take
your mind off the crying.
If the tears haven't stopped after this it is time to try a few other things. Don't lose your cool as it may worsen the situation. Take a deep breath and continue on. Maybe your baby needs some quiet cuddle time; hold them close and quietly sing or talk to them. Get moving; grab the stroller or strap them in the car to help them relax.
If all else fails it may mean that your little angel is just having a bad day. There are things that can help you to deal with the crying though. Try these out for size:
Let it all out- talk to your husband/wife/friend/ family member about how frustrated you are. It will help you to let off some steam without taking it out on your baby.
Ask for help- Let someone else look after baby while you get out of the house and away from the crying. Go to your local café and relax with a warm cup of coffee in a child free environment
Take time out- If you're at home alone with your baby put them in their cot, shut the door and get away from the noise. As soon as you're out of range of the noise you'll feel better.
Realise that it's not you- Babies just need to cry it out sometimes. So long as they're safe you should know that you've done all you can and there's nothing more you can do.
Know your limits- If you are worried that you can't cope any longer call a healthcare provider. Don't leave things to chance. It's 100% okay to ask for help. New Zealand has a great service called the Parent Helpline. You can call them on 0800 568 856 at any time of the day or week to chat with them.
The main thing to remember is that your wellbeing is vital to caring for your baby. Taking some simple time out to look
after yourself is better than getting to the point of shaking your baby or not being able to function properly.
A deep breath and count to 10 never goes astray either!